As I type this Kade is screaming his head off and hitting his bedroom door in a defiant protest over taking a nap. I am reaching the point of breakdown and it is scaring the crap out of me. I haven’t posted lately because Kade has turned into a monster who throws tantrums all day and refuses to nap or even go to bed and Liv has yet to decide to sleep at night. So I am up all night long nursing Liv and trying to get her to sleep (which she does beautifully during the day) and then spend my days constantly fighting with Kade. He is officially out of control and Kyle and I are like a pair of zombie parents. Yesterday was a pretty good day, we went to the zoo and Kade actually behaved but by the time we got home it was too late for a nap (not that he would have taken one anyway) and he was exhausted. He played for awhile then we sat down for dinner (minor tantrum over not wanting to sit at table). I was nursing Liv so Kyle gave Kade a bath (major tantrum - the neighbors probably thought we were killing him). I tucked him in for the night (ultimate tantrum - screaming, kicking, etc.). He kept waking up during the night and yelling for me, but I was upstairs in the middle of nursing and trying to get Liv to sleep so Kyle got him to go back to bed. Then he’s up at 7 and is still tired (along with everyone else in the house) but refuses to lay down for a nap. This is basically the routine we go through every day now. I am beyond sleep deprived and I am in no position to reason with Kade so I end up losing it and crying. I know that he has a lot to adjust to with Liv in the house and to that I say blah, blah, blah because Kyle and I have gone above and beyond with trying to spend special time with Kade and giving him that extra attention. That discipline book I posted about before is sitting on my end table so I’d better pick it back up and start reading because we are running out of options here and someone is going to explode soon…
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5 Comments
Hi Erika, Hang on. (remember when yer at the end of your rope, just hang on and swing)We all go through it when the second child comes. Everyone has to adjust, and sometimes it takes a while. I once read that to a first born accepting another member to the family would be like a spouse wanting to add an additional spouse. He can’t understand so much. It just takes time. And add your Mommy hormones to the mix. Just take one day at a time (unless they all gang up on ya). Step outside for fresh air, think positive thoughts…Don’t trip over tryin to be super mom. It’s not worth tryin to be cuz there’s no such thing. I feel your pain but it’s one of those things you get to go through and no one can really help you. It’s great to vent and realize that all second time parents must go through this stage of parenting. You and (big) Kade know it gets better & better. I know it’s so hard to watch (little) Kade go through it. However, you’re building his character and he’ll turn out just fine. :) Love, Val
Amen to that… Truthfully, you have a very well adjusted little boy that is frustrated and just hasn’t figured out how to express himself, Properly.You do need to hang in there and rest assured that it gets better, but may get worse, first. Just stand your ground. Consistency is the key. You are the big person here. He may push till you want to give in but remember, the limits will just continue to stretch if you do. Better to be firm now, rather than later when he is a teenager. Isn’t parenting grand!!
God plays a funny trick on us. He gives us these adorable little ones for a couple years…then they turn into monsters. By then you are so hooked on them and so in love, ya can’t toss them out. :)
The sun will shine.
Love,
Aunt Jan
Hi Erika,
Just wanted to let you know I’m thinking of you and praying that your life will settle in to a more relaxing routine for you. Things will get better with Kade and Liv will start sleeping at night.You may need a few more of those I’m here for you hugs from your husband Kyle.Take care and remember to allow yourself some time each day for you.
Linda P.
I have no words of wisdom since I have no children, but I’m keeping you in my thoughts! I hope things get better for you guys soon!
I’m with Jacki on this one, as I have no words of wisdom, and probably never will. I think I have tons of patience and then I get around kids. You got to love them, but they make my anxiety shoot through the roof! Just in reading your previous posts I can see we both have that OCD/anxiety thing going on. I can only imagine what you’re going through. I’ve been thinking about you guys tons and pray that it gets better for you soon…very soon. Hey, at least I can hope, right? On another note, I love the new pictures…they are so wonderful and I must say that I am quite jealous of the new camera. It’s awesome…I love taking pictures but have never been “trained” to take them. It’s one of those things on my list that I would love to do. Ok, I’m rambling on and you probably won’t even have time to read this amidst the chaos. Sending thoughts your way….Heidi